Katie’s Three Month Update And Favorite Items

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It is hard to believe that yesterday our sweet little girl turned three months old. She and her parents both survived the “fourth trimester.” In case you haven’t heard this term before, the fourth trimester begins when the baby is born and lasts until they are three months old. This term is used to describe the period of enormous change that takes place during these first three months as newborn babies adjust to the world outside the womb. Until they reach three months old most of their senses, such as sight are still developing. Now that she has completed the fourth trimester, she is more active, aware, social and independent.  She has learned to smile, giggle and self soothe as well as track movements.

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I can’t share her latest stats with you as we no longer have a baby scale and her next pediatrician visit isn’t until next month. But, suffice it to say, Katie is growing like a weed. As of Monday she has outgrown most of her 3 month clothing, especially footies, due to her height. She is still a size 1 in diapers and, since many people have asked, we have loved the Pampers Swaddlers diapers thus far as we haven’t had any leaks and only one blowout over the course of three months.

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This month Katie traveled to two new states, Vermont and Georgia via plane and car. She was a trooper on both, making friends everywhere she went. Thanks to many of the tips that you all shared with us, while I was a bundle of nerves leading up to both trips, we survived them without too much stress.

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That being said, I have no desire to go on a flight or road trip with Katie solo anytime soon. I was thankful for the extra pair of hands when we needed to do quick diaper changes, gather our things at the airport and soothe Katie during traffic jams. I also rode the subway with Katie three times, most of which were calm and uneventful especially since I chose to wear her in the carrier for the trek. On Sunday I had a pretty stressful hour with Katie when the subways were down due to a power outage. While I was super anxious and stressed in the moment, afterwards it was a great learning opportunity and taught me how important it is to stay as calm as possible beause my anxiety only stresses Katie out.  I am going to do a dedicated post sharing our tips and tricks for traveling with an infant, and am also sharing a few of our favorite things later in this post. While we were in Georgia she also had the chance to enjoy her first baby pool with her grandparents! We weren’t ready to take her to the neighborhood pool due to the chlorine, crowds and her young age but the blowup baby pool was perfect!

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When we were in Vermont she went on her first hike and spent LOTS of time outside on the large deck since the weather was cool.

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We are still following the Moms on Call method which is working out very well for us. Katie has thrived and gained weight while also napping well and has been sleeping through the night since six weeks.  While the Moms on Call method isn’t perfect for everyone and there are many different opinions on schedules, we have been pleased with it thus far and would have changed if it wasn’t working or if she wasn’t gaining weight. We of course use the schedule as a guide, but provide ourselves the flexibility to ensure we are living life and adjust it to accomodate both our needs and Katie’s. As of now, based on her age, she is eating between 5 and 6 ounces, for a total of around 28 ounces per day,  and her schedule is as follows:

  • 7 AM Wake and feed
  • 7:30-8:15 Playtime
  • 8:15-10  Nap
  • 10 Wake and feed
  • 10:30 – 11:15 Playtime
  • 11:15-1pm Nap
  • 1pm Wake and feed
  • 1:30-2:15 Playtime
  • 2:15 – 4 Nap
  • 4- Wake and feed
  • 4:30-5:15 Playtime
  • 5:15- 6:30 Catnap or chill time in stroller or swing
  • 6:30 Bath
  • 6:45 Calm time (reading book, listening to mellow music, rocking in dimly lit nursery)
  • 7 Last feed
  • 7:30 Bed

Our goal is for Katie to have at least two naps per day in her crib to ensure she gets proper sleep. Unfortunately, as of now, she isn’t napping well in her stroller as she enjoys looking at everything when we are out and about. At least three days a week the 11:15-1pm nap time is done out and about as this is the time I go for a long walk with fellow moms or go to a workout. Luckily both the Carroll Park workout and Crossfit allow for the babies to nap in their stroller if she happens to fall asleep. 

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Last week she caught us off guard by rolling onto her stomach! It is recommended to unswaddle a baby’s arms once they start rolling to reduce the risk of them getting caught face down in their crib. She has adjusted well to having her hands out in her swaddle. However, since this transition, we have found that she needs a few extra minutes of calming before she falls asleep, especially during afternoon naps. Though she sleeps through the night, sometimes we have to go in one or two times between 7:30 and 8:30pm to help her settle down a bit. In addition, a few times a week she will wake up around 4 am with a very wet diaper. If she does this, I quickly go in, change her diaper and put her back down without turning on the lights. She has been able to quickly fall back asleep or, better yet, barely wake up during the process.

I am thrilled that I was able to make it to my goal of providing breast milk for Katie for the first three months. As you know, I haven’t been able to exclusively breast feed due to insufficient glandular tissue. For the first three months she would breast feed then have a supplemental bottle of formula. In addition, I pumped three to four times per day and would add the 1-1.5 ounces of breast milk to the bottle for her following meal. As of this weekend I stopped pumping in the evening due to the stress and anxiety it was causing and as of yesterday, her three month birthday, I stopped pumping altogether.  I am going to continue taking supplements and encouraging her to breastfeed during every meal as long as my milk supply will allow. It was a challenging journey but I am thankful that I was able to make it three months though, as I’ve said many times, I believe that a fed baby is best regardless of whether they are fed from breast milk, formula or a combination.

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Since I’ve received a few questions regarding the items we’re loving now that she is no longer a newborn, here are her favorite things this month:

I’m sure I forgot to mention a few things so if you have any questions, as always please feel free to email or leave a comment. In addition, if you want more frequent updates, I’m sharing lots on InstaStories and Instagram. Also, in case you missed it, here are our favorite newborn items!

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Katie’s Two Month Update and Favorite Items

Happy Monday! We just survived Katie’s two month pediatrician appointment which I think was definitely tough. Katie received four vaccines today, three shots and one oral. While the oral one didn’t bother her the shots definitely left her red faced from all the crying. We did our best to feed during the shots but even that didn’t help at points. Oh well, luckily she is upstairs sleeping right now and seemed far happier after some nap time on mom and dad.

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As of this morning’s appointment her stats are as follows:

    • Weight: 10 lbs 13 oz
    • Height: 24 inches

At two months she is wearing size one diapers and 3 month clothing. As she continues to grow, we find that simple tasks such as changing her clothes or diapers, feeding her and just cuddling with her continues to become easier as she is far less fragile than she was last month.

This month we hosted my parents and Bo’s mom for return visits and continued to introduce Katie to our friends and family, but having fewer visitors allowed us time to find a rythym as a family of three. We continue to love mornings together, as Bo and I spend at least an hour feeding, burping and playing with Katie before he leaves for work. She loves spending time in her Boppy Lounger while we read and sing together.

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We are still following the Moms on Call method which is working out very well for us. Katie has thrived and gained weight while also napping well and as of a few weeks ago, sleeping through the night.  While the Moms on Call method isn’t perfect for everyone and there are many different opinions on schedules, we have been pleased with it thus far and would have changed if it wasn’t working or if she wasn’t gaining weight. We of course use the schedule as a guide, but provide ourselves the flexibility to ensure we are living life and adjust it to accomodate both our needs and Katie’s. For example, yesterday we attended an adorable first birthday party in Fort Greene Park. Since the party was 12-2pm it meant that we fed Katie during the party and she didn’t get the same quality of nap that she would get in her bassinet or crib. Since we knew she was tired, we let her nap a bit longer when we got home. She is currently sleeping from 8 PM until 7 AM most nights, though she will sometimes wake up around 4 AM hungry or wet. If she does, I change her and nurse her for a few minutes.

Once she started sleeping through the night I had to decide how I wanted to manage my pumping schedule in order to maintain my supply. Since I am still on maternity leave, I have decided to wake up around 3 AM to pump Monday through Thursday, while allowing myself to sleep on the weekends and instead do a power pumping session in the evening while Bo and I are watching a movie or reading.

This month I also overcame my fear of giving Katie a bath. For the first month, Bo and I bathed her together but as her bedime became earlier this wasn’t realistic considering Bo’s work schedule. After watching a few Newborn Bathtime Routine YouTube videos, I found a bath routine that worked for me and have succesfully bathed four to five times a week since then. In addition, since baths seemed to calm her so much, I tried giving her a bath before her first evening feed (4pm) which in turn has almost eliminated the “witching hour” for us as she now naps well in the late afternoon and evening following this bath.

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Due to her long length, she has started to outgrow her bassinet and therefore starting last week we have begun the transition to the crib and nursery. So far the transition is going well. She has fallen in love with the Peter Rabbit mobile that is above her changing table, often staring at it with a smile when we’re changing her or even trying to reach for it. As parents, we’ve fallen in love with spending more time in the nursery as it is such a soothing space and the glider is SO comfortable.

Since I’ve received a few questions regarding the items we’re loving now that she is no longer a newborn, here are her favorite things this month:

I’m sure I forgot to mention a few things so if you have any questions, as always please feel free to email or leave a comment. In addition, if you want more frequent updates, I’m sharing lots on InstaStories and Instagram. Also, in case you missed it, here are our favorite newborn items!

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This Post Is For Everyone

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As I type this post, I’m sitting in our master bedroom watching Katie sleep while I pump. Actually, I should change that last sentence to read “wishing and hoping Katie would sleep, pumping and trying to type this post.”

We are currently 15 minutes into our nightly “witching hour.” The 1-2 hours each day when Katie tends to be most unpredictable. Some days this is her best nap of the day while others she is only happy if being held either while I rock her in the glider or am dancing with her as Disney tunes play in the background.

When I sat down, I wasn’t planning to blog during this pump session. In fact, I have a book sitting next to me. But, as I scrolled through Instagram and saw the outpouring of support on today’s post, my heart was moved to share those same thoughts with you all, especially for those who haven’t been through the journey of breast feeding.

I titled this post This Post Is For Everyone as the last thing I want, is for someone to see the picture of me and Katie and think that this isn’t relevant for them. I understand that many of you probably skip over the motherhood posts, hoping that soon recipes, workouts and fashion posts will become more frequent. But, I promise you, today’s post is for anyone and everyone.

Before I was a mother, I often wondered how to best support my friends as they became mothers or announced their pregnancies. Since I hadn’t been down that path before, I felt clueless.

Whether you are a mother, a soon-to-be mother, a friend, a sister, or an innocent bystander, today I want to share with you the number one word of advice I’d give to you.

Show the mothers around you support and compassion as they develop their style of keeping their baby nourished.

I am so thankful to the friends, relatives, doctors and you all, my readers on Instagram and Facebook, who helped me through the initial days and weeks that were filled with questions, challenges and moments of joy as I figured out how best to nourish Katie.

Like everything in life, this too is very personal. However, we live in a society that often portrays one image of feeding a child. For years, that image was formula feeding. Now, there are hashtags, videos, books and articles portraying the belief that “breast is best.”  In fact, I clearly remember, one vivid moment during the first few minutes of our parenting class that we took at Tribecca Medical. The woman leading the class, asked whether anyone in the room planned to feed their child using formula. I leaned over to Bo, asking why in the heck anyone would do that when the best food a child could receive was free and readily accesible. At that point, everything I’d read and heard followed the “breast is best” your child school of thought. It all seemed so simple to me at that time. Of the 20 or 25 people in the room, no one raised their hand.

Over the past seven weeks, as I’ve taken my own journey to understand how best to nourish and feed Katie, I have come to learn and appreciate, that what our pediatrician, my mother and others said to me is so true – FED IS BEST.

If you have a new mom in your life, show her compassion and support as she makes this journey. There will be hard days and wonderful days even for a woman who has the simplest of experiences. The issues and challenges are numerous and sometimes, all someone needs is a friend or loved one who can smile, support them and bring over anything to help. It may be ordering them extra bottles on Amazon Prime when you hear their woes about the constant washing of bottles. Or, maybe they never expected to need a bottle so you help by bringing a random assortment of bottles, with the receipt, so they can quickly test and try the different models. Or, if your friend is breast feeding, maybe you send them a care package of self care items especially for breast feeding – nipple cream, therapeutic gels, lactation cookies, or lactation tea packs. Let them vent to you about the trials and tribulations, even if you’ve never been in their shoes.

In case you don’t know what to say, here are a few things I wouldn’t recommend saying:

    • Don’t worry, it will get easier. For some, it does get easier but for others it may never improve. Whether it is insufficient supply, blocked ducts, mastitis, latch issues or a host of other challenges, the road may be tough for them the entire time they choose to breastfeed.
    • Your milk will come in soon, I’m sure formula is only temporary. That mom’s milk may never come in or come in the amount needed to fully support the baby. So many people have said this to me and at first it made me want to curl up in a ball and cry but now, I’ve started using it as a moment to educate them.

So yes, in a society where we have more media in our face than ever before, sometimes the moms need support and love because not every breastfeeding journey is filled with the smiling babies, perfectly fitting nursing covers or nursing clothes and wonderfully full breasts you see in so many ads, stories and articles. Just like everything every other type of media, images projected are far different than reality. The difference is, this act which is so natural is so difficult and sometimes impossible for many women. 


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